My Biggest Accomplishment

 Posted by on March 16, 2013  No Responses »
Mar 162013
 

In a previous post, I mentioned that I was in a very unhappy relationship/marriage for 8 years.  Today, I would have to say that my biggest accomplishment so far, has been getting out of that.

I was a very shy girl, who grew up in a small town, and didn’t date anyone, until I met my ex-husband.  He was my first real boyfriend.  We got along great at first, for a few months.  Then, things started going downhill from there.  This was my first real relationship, so I didn’t have anything to compare it to.  I thought everything we were going through was normal.  I thought things would change.  Only, they didn’t.  I gave him a million chances to try to work on our relationship, and he never put forth any effort.

I was tired, lonely, stressed, and miserable for many years.  One day, I finally decided that I’d had enough.  I had given that relationship everything I had, and it was killing me.  I was so depressed with myself, and my life.  I knew if I didn’t do something at that point, that I would never be happy.  Then, I got out.

Getting out was extremely difficult.  My ex-husband spent money like it was water, and we were up to our eyeballs in debt.  We were 2-3 months behind on everything it seemed.  We owed money to the IRS and Maine Revenue Services.  I ended up taking on pretty much all of that debt through our divorce, only because I knew he would never pay on any of it, and then I’d get stuck paying it in the future anyway, on top of even more interest and late fees.

It took me 2.5 years to get out of that debt.

Not only did we have all that debt, but my car at the time was broken down.  The shifter had broken, and I didn’t have the money to pay to get it fixed.  So, it sat in my driveway for 8 months.  Can you imagine not having a vehicle for 8 months?  Luckily, I lived down the street from work at that time, and was able to walk to work.  My co-worker allowed me to use her vehicle on my lunch breaks, so that I could do some grocery shopping.  It was a rough 8 months, but I got through it somehow.

I had to figure out how to pay for an apartment, and other bills, with just my own income.  It was the most difficult time in my life.  Today, I am debt-free, with the man of my dreams, and happier than I have ever been.

In a couple of months, I’m sure if you ask me the same question, my answer will have changed.  I’m due to give birth to a beautiful baby girl on or around May 8th!  Then, I will say, Kayleigh is my biggest accomplishment!

What is your biggest accomplishment?  Let me know in the comments!

10 Things That Make Me Awesome

 Posted by on March 15, 2013  No Responses »
Mar 152013
 

 

We are all awesome in our own ways, and I think we need to remind ourselves of that on occasion.  Often times, we get in a rut.  A self-destructive rut.  We have a bad day, we blame ourselves.  We beat ourselves down until we just feel miserable.  It’s times like these we need to think about what makes us awesome.  It’s not healthy to feel down on yourself all the time.  Making a list of things that make you awesome can help improve your mood, and overall health.

10 Things That Make Me Awesome

1) I am always very polite, even to strangers. I say “please” and “thank you”. I hold doors open for people. I don’t cut people off when they’re talking. The list goes on and on. My parents taught me proper manners at a very young age, and for that I am very thankful.

2) I am always on time or early for meetings and appointments. I have worked in a law office for more than 10 years now, and I have seen my fair share of people show up late for their scheduled appointments. I just cannot physically bring myself to show up late for an appointment. I will leave extra early to make sure I arrive on time, or even a little early. I have been 1/2 hour to 45 minutes early for all of my OB appointments since becoming pregnant 7 months ago. I have never been late for an appointment, and I don’t intend to. I know sometimes things are beyond a person’s control, but when people just don’t care whether they are on time or not, that really drives me crazy.

3) I am a giver. Ask anyone in my family or circle of friends, and they will tell you that I give more than I take. If someone asks me what I want for my birthday, Christmas, etc., I haven’t got a clue, because the truth is, I really don’t want anything. When it’s my turn to buy gifts for someone else though, I go to great lengths to make sure I get the perfect gift for them.

4) I pick out the best birthday cards EVER! So this is one really quirky thing of mine, but I love picking out birthday cards for friends and family. It’s one of my very favorite things to do. A card can really say so much, if you’re unable to express your feelings yourself. I spend A LOT of time searching for the perfect card. Once I start crying hysterically right in the store, I know I’ve found a winner. I always get very meaningful cards that will touch the heart of the person I am giving them to.

5) I am the queen of Google. Everyone in my family, and everyone I work with, knows to come to me if they need help finding information about something. I know how to rock Google like no other. I am able to use keywords to find exactly what they are looking for. For some reason, a lot of people I know struggle with searching the internet, but I just have a knack for it. I am able to use the right keywords to find exactly what they are looking for.

6) I am a great listener. I am very private, so I don’t talk to others about my own problems very much. They always know when they need someone to just listen to them, however, I am always here. I try to give advice when I can, and help them work through their problems.

7) I’m dependable. If you ask me to do something for you, and I agree to, I will follow through with that.

8 ) I’ll eat just about anything at least once. I love food, and I love trying new foods even more. Unless it’s something way out there like cow tongue or something (which my Dad actually did make me try when I was a little girl!), I will try it. Every time I eat out at a restaurant, I order something different. My fiance, on the other hand, sticks to pretty much the same thing everywhere we go (a burger). There’s no fun in that! I love discovering new foods! If you were to ever cook for me, I would not be picky at all.

9) I’m very laid back and easy to please. I tend to be the “follower” in the crowd, not the leader. I’m pretty much up for anything, and won’t put up a fight. I just go with the flow!

10) I have a life growing inside of me right now, and I think that’s pretty awesome!!

What are some things that make you awesome?? Let me know in the comments!

 

What’s On My iPod?

 Posted by on March 14, 2013  No Responses »
Mar 142013
 

 

My fiance bought me an iPod for my birthday last year, and I absolutely loved it!  We had wireless internet at our house, so I was constantly using it to catch up on the latest episodes of my favorite shows, to play games, browse the web, Facebook, etc. A few months later, we decided to get new cell phones, and I ended up getting an iPhone.  So now, my iPod is stashed away in storage somewhere because I don’t really need it anymore.

I absolutely love my iPhone.  This is the first time I’ve ever had a phone that I can go on the internet with, take great pictures with, listen to music on, etc.  I’m a very cheap person, so I’ve always bought very simple, basic phones.  Now, I’d be completely lost without my iPhone.  I carry it around with me everywhere and use it all the time.

One thing I love most about the iPhone is listening to Pandora.  Like I said, I’m a cheap person.  Therefore, I don’t buy songs to download onto my phone, but instead, I listen to Pandora for free.  I think Pandora is one of the best inventions ever.  You get to type in any artist you like, and they’ll create a station that plays songs by that artist, and other artists that are similar.  Great, right?!

I have created several Pandora stations.  My favorites are:

1)  Laid Back Beach Station – This station plays a lot of Jack Johnson, Sublime, Bob Marley, Ben Harper, Jason Mraz, etc.  I love listening to this station because it totally relaxes me.  The music is so upbeat and mellow, and makes me long for warm Summer days on the beach!  This is the station I listen to the most.

2)  60’s Oldies Radio – This station plays a lot of great songs like The Righteous Brothers, The Ronettes, The Temptations, Otis Redding, The Marcels, The Crests, etc.  I just love the old, soulful music from the 60’s!

3)  Cold War Kids Radio – My fiance and I are both big fans of the Cold War Kids.  This station plays a lot of their songs, plus other alternative rock music, like MGMT, Modest Mouse, Muse, The Black Keys, etc.  We are alternative rock junkies!

4)  Led Zeppelin Radio – Led Zeppelin is my favorite band EVER!  I can never get enough of their music.  This station plays a lot of their great songs, plus other classic rock like Jimi Hendrix, Pink Floyd, The Rolling Stones, Janis Joplin, etc.  My Dad got me into this music as a kid, and I still love it today!

5)  Gorillaz Radio – Another one of our favorite bands is Gorillaz.  My fiance got me into this band when we first started dating.  I had heard them a few times before, and liked them, but he is pretty much obsessed with them, and that has sort of rubbed off on me a bit too.  Their music is just so fun and unique!  This station also plays bands like The Strokes, Franz Ferdinand, Arctic Monkeys, White Town, etc.

What’s currently playing on your iPod, iPhone, or other device?  Let me know in the comments!

I Regret…

 Posted by on March 13, 2013  No Responses »
Mar 132013
 

 

I try not to regret anything.  I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason, even if we don’t see it at the time.

I went through a very rocky and unhealthy relationship and marriage for 8 years.  I could easily say that I regret staying in that relationship, but now that I’m out of it, and in a very happy and healthy relationship, I understand why I had to go through that.  I learned a lot about myself, what I wanted and needed in a partner, and how to make things work.

My current partner and I have never even had a fight in the 2.5 years we have been together.  He too, went through several failed relationships before we got together, and he agrees that going through those relationships really allowed us to have a healthy relationship together.  We are both more mature, patient, understanding, and are able to compromise.  We get along so well that it just blows my mind sometimes.  If I had not gone through my previous relationship, I feel as though I may have taken this one for granted.  But instead, I fully understand just how lucky I am to have such a wonderful man in my life, and I never take one day with him for granted.

I am not completely without regret, however.  There are some things I have done in my life, that I really wish I hadn’t. Those things almost always involve times when I hurt someone else’s feelings, whether I intended to or not.  One such time really sticks out in my mind.

I don’t remember exactly how old I was, but I’d guess around 12 or 13.  Christmas time was nearing, and all I wanted was a bike.  Not just any bike though, a mountain bike. All the kids in town, including my best friend, had a mountain bike, it seemed.  I begged and pleaded for my parents to get me one for Christmas.

Well, Christmas morning arrived, and after opening all my gifts, which did not include a mountain bike, I was feeling pretty let down.  Then, my Dad told me I should go take a look out in the garage because there was something out there for me.

I immediately thought to myself that they must have bought me a mountain bike, so I jumped up and ran out to the garage, my parents not too far behind me.  They entered the garage at the same time I did.

There, in the garage, sat a brand new bike, but it was a 10 speed, not a mountain bike.  I was absolutely devastated.  I had wanted a mountain bike so badly, and they bought me a 10 speed.  I was in that early teenage stage where I thought I had to copy what everyone else was doing, or I would surely stick out like a sore thumb and be made fun of.

I didn’t hold back my disappointment from my parents.  Instead, I started crying and acting like a child.  I was upset and angry that I didn’t get exactly what I wanted, and I let them know it.

Summer time came, and I refused to ride the bike.  It wasn’t what I wanted, and I wouldn’t be caught dead riding it around town.  So, there it sat, in the garage, unwanted and unused.

I don’t remember exactly what happened to that bike.  I think my Dad ended up buying himself a new bike and he and my Mom rode both bikes together.

Now that I am an adult, and have come to understand all of the sacrifices my parents, especially my Dad, made for me growing up, I feel just absolutely terrible about that Christmas, and I regret the way I acted.  My Dad worked hard to save the money to buy me that bike.  He was probably bursting at the seams to give it to me on Christmas morning, and see a big smile across my face, knowing that he did something really awesome for me, and because it wasn’t exactly what I wanted, I threw a hissy fit instead.  I can only imagine how painful that must have been for him, and it breaks my heart to think that I did that to him.

That, is something I will regret for the rest of my life.

Is there something you regret?  Let me know in the comments!

Something That I Miss

 Posted by on March 12, 2013  No Responses »
Mar 122013
 

 

When you’re a kid, you don’t really appreciate the things you have.  Only when you get older, and those things slip away from you, do you realize what you had, and then, you miss it terribly.  There isn’t just something that I miss, there are so many things that I miss, mostly from my childhood.  I miss both of my grandfathers, who passed away several years ago, when I was still young.  I have very fond memories of them, and wish they were still here, so that I could share my life with them.

I miss the stability of everything.  My Dad was such an awesome provider for our family, and my Mom was very nurturing.  Pretty soon it’s going to be my fiance and I taking on those roles with our daughter Kayleigh.  Sometimes I just really miss having someone always looking out for me.  Now I go through life hoping I don’t make a huge mistake that I’ll someday regret.

I miss family traditions.  Every Christmas Eve when I was a child, my family and I would drive to my grandparents’ house to celebrate.  The whole family would come.  My Mom was one of six children, so there were always lots of people there.  I had so much fun playing with my cousins.  The adults would buy a gift for everyone (back when things weren’t so darn expensive!) and us kids had such a blast opening presents all night.  We’d have a big, fancy dinner, with 4 or 5 different pies to choose from for dessert. After the party was over, my parents would take me back home and put me to bed, where I eagerly waited for Santa’s arrival.

Over the years, as everyone has grown up, and moved further away, we have adapted new family traditions.  Now, we get together on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon in December, usually at my Aunt’s house, and we celebrate with whoever is able to make it. Instead of cooking a huge meal, we order pizza.  Instead of everyone buying a gift for everyone else, we have fun with a Yankee Swap.

Is there something that you miss?  Let me know in the comments!

The Last Book I Read Was…

 Posted by on March 11, 2013  No Responses »
Mar 112013
 

 

So, I’m not really much of a reader…  It’s funny.  When I was a young girl, all I ever did was read books.  I absolutely loved reading, and now I hardly ever do.  I am one of those people, though, that cannot put a book down once I start reading it.  So, unless I have A LOT of free time on my hands, I’m just not going to even attempt to get into a book.  If I read 10 pages here, and 10 pages there, it just doesn’t hold my interest long enough for me to actually make it the whole way through.  I have to sit down, and read until the book is done.

In all honesty, the last book I read was “There’s No Place Like Space!” by Dr. Seuss.  My fiance and I are on a Dr. Seuss kick for our baby, and have been buying his books left and right.  I just bought this book this past weekend, and had to read it.  Even though Kayleigh is not here yet, we’re enjoying reading to her in the womb.  This book was very cute, and educational too!

But, you’re probably not interested in the last Dr. Seuss book I read.  The last real book I read was “Jitterbug Perfume” by Tom Robbins.  I think I probably read this in 2009 or so, it’s been that long!!  I actually had an entire weekend to myself, where I didn’t have to go anywhere or do anything, so I laid on the couch, and read this book non-stop, with only a couple of breaks where I fell asleep.  The book was around 275 pages, so it was quite a haul!  My eyes were very tired by the end of it, but I just couldn’t put it down.  It held my interest the entire time, and I just loved the ending.

Jitterbug Perfume

My fiance had actually got me interested in Tom Robbins.  He suggested that I read “Still Life with Woodpecker“, which I did prior to reading Jitterbug Perfume.  I enjoyed Still Life with Woodpecker so much that I bought Jitterbug Perfume.

Tom Robbins’  writing style is very unique, and honestly, kind of strange.  His stories are very far out there, so you really have to have some imagination to follow along with them.  Someone commented on Urban Dictionary, that “His writing style is simultaneously intellectual and immature, high-brow and low-brow, snobby and perfectly willing to dabble in all our human flaws.”  I would say that sums it up perfectly!

After reading Jitterbug Perfume, I bought another Tom Robbins’ book, “Even Cowgirls Get the Blues“.  I have tried reading this book several times now, but I just haven’t had time to sit down and read it the whole way through like I want.  I really wish I were one of those people that can read a book a few pages at a time.

What’s the last book you read?  Let me know in the comments!

My Daily Routine

 Posted by on March 10, 2013  No Responses »
Mar 102013
 

 

I am a very “routine” person.  I am a planner by nature, and always need to know what’s going to happen ahead of time.  I don’t really like spontaneity, and it drives my fiance, who is just the opposite, crazy!  My daily routine pretty much never changes, and I like it that way.  When I have my baby in 2 or so months, I know my current daily routine is going to change drastically, but I’ll deal with it and figure out a new routine!

Currently my daily routine is as follows:

1)  Wake up at 5:45am

2)  Get in the shower

3)  Get dressed and do my hair/make up

4)  Get my bag for work ready – filled with waters/breakfast/lunch/snacks, etc.

5)  My fiance and I get in the car and I drop him off at his work.  Sometimes we stop at Dunkin Donuts or Tim Hortons on the way for coffee and/or breakfast, but it’s right down the street from his office, so it’s not breaking the routine too much!

6)  Continue driving to my work.

7)  Get to work – check e-mail, facebook, etc.

8 ) Actually start my work day!

9)  Take lunch from 1:30-2:30pm.

10)  Get back to work and work until 4:30pm.

11)  Leave work and pick up my fiance.

12)  Hit the grocery store on the way home for dinner, unless we have somehow managed to get grocery shopping done during the week and have food at home (this is really bugging me lately!!).

13)  Get home and make dinner.

14)  Eat dinner.

15)  Clean up from dinner.

16)  Do laundry while watching TV, surfing internet, etc.

17)  Go to bed between 9-9:30pm.

 

What’s your daily routine?  Let me know in the comments!

What’s On My Bucket List?

 Posted by on March 9, 2013  No Responses »
Mar 092013
 

 

I don’t have a very long, detailed bucket list like some people do, but there are a few things I would like to accomplish before my time here on earth is through.

What’s On My Bucket List:

1)  Marry my fiance, the love of my life.

2)  Have a child/children – I’m 7 months pregnant, so I’ll be able to cross this one off soon!

3)  Leave my job and be a stay-at-home Mom for a few years – This one is currently in the works as well!

4)  Visit Italy, where my ancestors are from.

5)  Spend a week renting a beach house and relaxing on the beach.

6)  Visit the Grand Canyon.

7)  Figure out how to make a decent income from home.

8 )  Buy a house.

 

Do you have a bucket list?  What’s on yours?  Let me know in the comments!

My Biggest Pet Peeve Is…

 Posted by on March 8, 2013  No Responses »
Mar 082013
 

 

It seems more and more lately, people that are driving on the roads just don’t care about anyone else.  They’ll maneuver their car whichever way they can, at any rate of speed they can, without giving any caution to anyone around them.  It drives me absolutely mad!!

Here are my biggest pet peeves in regards to crazy drivers:

1)  People who drive with pets on their laps – Ummm, hello??  How are you possibly paying attention to driving with a dog sitting on your lap?!  I tried driving with a dog in the back of my car a few times, and it drove me nuts.  It was very distracting.  I can’t imagine having a dog sitting right on my lap while I’m trying to drive.  They bounce all over the place, want to stick their face out the window, put their paws up on the steering wheel, distract you, and slow down your reaction time.  This is not safe people!!

2)  People who text or talk on their cell phone while driving – I’ll admit it, I have talked on my cell phone while driving in the past, but I don’t do it anymore.  Now that I’m pregnant, I am extremely cautious while driving.  I don’t want to do anything to put my unborn baby in any danger, so I am definitely not talking on my cell phone while driving, and I won’t ever do it again.  Before when I was doing it, I was paying more attention to the road, than to my conversation.  I would only half listen to what they were saying really.  The person on the other end would sometimes yell their question out to me a second or third time because I just wasn’t paying attention to them, but to the road instead.  Most people aren’t wired that way though, and pay more attention to their conversation, than they do to their driving.  I have watched many people get in near accidents because they were talking on their cell phone while driving, and not paying attention.

3)  People who ride your butt – This irritates me SO much.  People around here seem to do this to me all the time.  I don’t drive like a granny.  I go at least the speed limit, sometimes up to 5 over.  For whatever reason, that is just not enough for most people, I guess.  I absolutely hate it when someone is driving behind me, and they get so close to my car that I can barely see their headlights.  People that do this are complete jerks.

4)  People who pass you where they shouldn’t be passing – I have had this happen to me many times recently.  One time I was dropping my fiance off at work on a side street in our City.  There is NO passing lane, and the speed limit is 25mph.  I was going about 30mph, and this creep behind me decided he just had to pass me at a very high rate of speed.  A lot of people walk along this street.  There is a hospital entrance on this street.  Children cross this street to get to school.  This is not a street that someone should be passing another vehicle on, let alone at a very high rate of speed.  Complete lunacy.

On a separate day, I was driving down a different street, where no one should be passing another vehicle, and I saw a vehicle pass 6 or 7 other vehicles (including mine) on THE RIGHT HAND SIDE at a very high rate of speed!!  Who does that?!  One of the vehicles this person was passing, tried to make a right hand turn at the same time he was passing it.  I thought for sure they were going to collide.  Luckily the person trying to make the right hand turn saw this jerk in time and did not complete their right hand turn.

5)  People who speed out from a stop sign to cut you off and pull out in front of you, then slow way down, below the speed limit.  Ok, if you were in such a hurry to pull out in front of me, why aren’t you driving the speed limit?!  This seriously drives me nuts!!  I’m not a speed demon by any means, but when you’re stuck behind someone going 10-15 mph under the speed limit, it’s super annoying!

What is your biggest pet peeve?? Let me know in the comments!

My Dream Job

 Posted by on March 6, 2013  No Responses »
Mar 062013
 

 

I have worked as a Paralegal in a small law firm for 13 years now.  It’s not something I love, or even like to do.  I absolutely loathe my job, honestly.  I find it to be boring, but stressful at the same time, tedious and redundant.  It does not excite me.  I do not get up in the morning, and think “Oh, I can’t wait to go to work today!”  I dread going to work every single morning.

At the end of this month, I will be leaving my job.  I am due with my first child on May 8th, and I am going to be a stay-at-home Mom.  I absolutely cannot wait.  I have been waiting for this day for so very long.  This is definitely my dream job.  I know this job is going to come with its own set of challenges, and my life will be adjusted dramatically, but I’m ready to take it on.  I can’t wait to stay home with my baby girl, and be able to watch her learn and grow into a smart, beautiful little girl!  I think this is going to be the most rewarding job I have ever had, even if it means sacrificing.

I also plan to blog from home when I can, to try to earn a bit of supplemental income to my fiance’s.  I have thoroughly enjoyed blogging for the last year and a half I have been doing it, and I really hope to work on improving my writing skills and making goals for myself!

If you could choose to do anything, what would your dream job be?  Let me know in the comments!